My best friend is planning an elaborate, expensive destination wedding that I genuinely cannot afford without going into debt, but I'm a bridesmaid and don't want to disappoint them. What do I do?

Jarand Nur

Jarand Nur

Explain financial hardship17 votes (30%)

Go into debt, attend11 votes (19%)

Decline bridesmaid role19 votes (33%)

Offer help in other ways10 votes (18%)

57 votes total • Created 1/16/2026

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My best friend is planning an elaborate, expensive destination wedding that I genuinely cannot afford without going into debt, but I'm a bridesmaid and don't want to disappoint them. What do I do? | asQkme