My best friend is planning their wedding, and while I'm thrilled for them, they've chosen a destination wedding that is financially prohibitive for me to attend, and I can't afford the time off work. Do I tell them I can't come and risk disappointing them, or go into debt and exhaust my leave to be there?

Daniel Andersen

Daniel Andersen

Decline, explain frankly2 votes (9%)
Attend, incur debt4 votes (17%)
Offer to contribute remotely12 votes (52%)
Only attend reception5 votes (22%)

23 votes total • Created 1/4/2026

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My best friend is planning their wedding, and while I'm thrilled for them, they've chosen a destination wedding that is financially prohibitive for me to attend, and I can't afford the time off work. Do I tell them I can't come and risk disappointing them, or go into debt and exhaust my leave to be there? | asQkme